Most single females wouldn’t hesitate to admit that they are searching for Mr. Right. In fact, at this very moment a few of them are trying to make subtle eye contact with a “handsome fellow” on the bus, train, or social event. But unfortunately, pride won’t allow them to make the first move because of the shared belief that “it is the guy‘s responsibility to approach a female.” Well, as cheesy as that might sound, that idea alone is enough to explain why a lot of females are living “man-less.”
Contrary to popular belief, all good guys are not locked up, gay, or married. In fact, majority of them are casually going about their day-to-day lives in search of a lady to love, cherish and grow old with. How do I know this? Well, take a look around you and I am sure you will see the faces of a few hopelessly romantic men attempting to make subtle eye contact. But predictably, you wouldn’t know this on a normal day, because he doesn’t fit perfectly into the mold of what you and other single females would consider desirable. He dresses simple, takes public transportation to work every morning, reads the MeTRO news paper while commuting and isn’t surrounded by a sea of excitement.
Thankfully, a small fraction of females have realized that they have to be more assertive in their approach to finding a special guy and as a result are now living a more fulfilling life. But hold up, finding a good guy is all fine and dandy, but keeping him happy is a totally different story. So ladies, if you are currently dating or married to a “good guy,” read the following suggestions on how to keep him.
1. Become his Emotional Support – One of a guy’s biggest fears is to loose the respect of his partner by expressing himself emotionally. That is why, it is extremely important that you let him know that it is OK to show his “softer side.”
2. Act Sultry Behind Closed Doors – We are all adults, so I don’t have to go into details about the many ways you could go about satisfying all his natural senses. Playing dress-up, being aggressive/assertive, initiating contact or even swinging from your living room chandelier are ideas that should be explored. (smiles.)
3. Treat him to Home-Cooked meals from time-to-time - When was the last time you made breakfast in bed for your man? Guys love to be catered to; plain and simple.
4. Initiate Intimate Encounters – The average guy wouldn’t mind having sex with his partner at least 3-4 times each week. So, instead of waiting on him to give you that little nudge in the middle of the night or early morning, take the initiative by “taking what is yours.”
5. Treat him with Dignity and Respect – If I should use my fingers and toes to illustrate the amount of times I saw a female screaming at her partner in public – i would need to enlist the help of a few friends and family members. Truthfully speaking, we all have issues with our partner sometimes, but what better way to preserve the privacy of the relationship by handling private matters behind closed doors.
6. Buy him one or two items of clothing whenever you can afford it – Its always a big plus whenever a female goes out of her way to buy something for her man to wear.
7. Send him cute text messages while he is at work – A simple “Hi Baby, I miss you!” text message would do wonders for a guy that is working hard in order to provide for himself and his family.
8. Avoid using “Me” or “I” in every sentences – The last think you want is to give him the impression that the relationship revolves around stratifying your needs and wants.
9. Bring something of value to the Relationship - We all have something to offer a relationship; big or small, good or bad.
10. Participate in activities that he enjoys doing – need I say more?
11. Avoid becoming “Motherly-” Don’t get me wrong, most men would appreciate a female that knows how to take charge, but the last thing a guy wants is to be treated like a child.
12. Don’t use text messages as the primary means of communication – Sending cute-little text messages to his phone is ok, but avoid making it the primary means of communication a daily basis.
13. Get to know his immediate family members – Fact. You will not get along with some of his immediate family members. But the fact that you are not liked by a selected few isn’t reason enough to isolate yourself from other family members; especially his mother, father and siblings.
14. Avoid having too many male friends – There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a few male friends to socialize with, but make sure that they respect your relationship.
15. Stroke his Ego – Give him the biggest piece of chicken!
By Mark Dixon
i agree with all of these….totally…:)