by: Lia Thomas
You’re stuck. Your woman of two years seems to be bored-, sexually. You’ve both fallen into a sexual rut that well, hardly leaves room for creativity. The passion that use to make the romance burn brightly is now a thin wisp of smoke blowing in the wind, and it is taking your enthusiasm right along with it.
What else is there to do? How can you breathe life into this dieing passion? Speaking from a woman’s point of view, there are a few things that you can do to ‘blow’ her mind before even taking it ‘there’.
Role-playing is not just for actors, lovers can use it to spice up their love life as well. Like you, many women have fantasies about how things will transpire BEFORE the act of making love or having sex takes place. Many of my girlfriends have mentioned one recurring scene: they want their husbands or boyfriends to walk in and just ‘take it’ (taking on a different role, hence role playing). For many women ‘taking it’ is more than the sexual act. It is the intensity of your desire for her, your burning desire to see her naked, and feel her bare flesh. For a woman, when a man asserts himself in this way and ravishes her body, it often leaves her feeling highly aroused, and feeling darn sexy.
How do you know when the time is right? Talk to her during the day. Call her while she is on her way home. ‘Feel out’ her mood, then proceed from there. If she is in a good mood, chances are she will go along with the role-playing. When she walks in, meet her at the door. Wordlessly take her belongings from her, and then begin stripping her down immediately. The bedroom should be the last option for this sexy role-playing. Be spontaneous. Go with the flow and move her to the top of the desk, on a chair, the sofa, or the counter in the bathroom. If she wants to know ‘what you are doing?’, simply tell her that “you have been dieing to have her all day.” Make it hot and steamy. Make it something she will never forget.
Experiment with oils. Women adore these love toys (I should know since I am a woman)! What a man can do with them stops short of ones imagination. One thing to consider before experimenting is discovering her favorite scent. For instance, if she likes the smell of roses, you may consider going to Bath and Body, or Victoria Secret, and picking up a rose scented oil. These stores often have a variety to choose from, some of which are ‘edible’. Select or go for this type of oil as a ‘tasty’ will make the experience more pleasurable for you.
An ideal time to use it would be when she has just showered.Wait for her outside of the tub then pleasantly surprise her by walking her over to the bed where you lay her down. Placing the oil on places such as her ear lobe, neck, back of the neck, center of her back, breast, thighs and stomach is a good idea. Place the oil on one spot at a time then gently caress her body, with your tongue. You are probably aware of her ‘weak spot’ so leave that spot for LAST. Reason being, by the time you get there and after paying this much attention to her body, she will be very stimulated and very ready for you. Tasting her weak spot will most likely bring her to the brink, or to that place where she is yearning to reciprocate the loving that you have shown her. Where you take it after that depends on you!
Be her love slave once in a while. You are with someone who deserves this, so what the heck? Once in a while it is good to just let the other person have their cake and eat it too. This will entail putting your ego to the side. This is the hardest part, so once that is out of the way; you are ready to be her love servant.
One way to get this sexy scene up and running is to play a game. Where/when you start it, depends totally on you. It could begin when she gets up in the morning, or when you two turn in for the night, or somewhere in between. It all depends on how much time you have, and how much you can give of yourself at the time. For this one day/night, give her what her heart desires. Pay attention to what she needs to be done, and how she needs it to be done. The key here is leaving ones ego at the door. If you can do this, then the possibilities of future sexy sceneries are endless.
Guys, remember that women are psychological beings. We often get stimulated by the action that take place BEFORE sex. The sexual act it, will never change. However, what leads up to it, can. We are turned on by the actions that evoke desire and emotion within us and demonstrate a level of caring and understanding toward us.
So, if you looking to add some sexiness to your love/romance/sex life, think about role playing, buying oils and submitting yourself entirely to her, for a moment in time. Truth is, a moment spent pleasing your woman (not pretending to please her), could bring boundless moments of loving your way. Loving that will fan that dieing flame of passion into a roaring inferno, for the both of you to enjoy!
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About Author : Lia Thomas is a teacher as well as a freelance writer. She resides in the miami area and has written for such media outlets as The Jamaican Star, The Rutgers Observer, Jive magazine and Bronze Thrills.
